Who am I, and what should I be doing?

Dr. EJ Harmon

June 18, 2019


A question that we may have posed to ourselves at some point in our lives. It is a question that creates reflection, spiritual answers for some, and comparison for others. A reflection regarding time or what you may have done throughout your life. Your experiences, your learned lessons, right decisions, wrong decisions, or did I choose the right or wrong fork in the road? Am I supposed to do more, and am I placing limitations on myself, if the sky is the limit than what is wrong with me? Others may try to define themselves from the spiritual aspect, God created me, so I am who he made me to be, and will live my life by going down the spiritual path as outlined by God and the bible. I will do what it is destined for me to do, if I live by his word.

We contemplate this information in our heads, on the other hand, we may be the individual that when we asked the question “Who am I and what should I be doing”? We then began to look at other people in the world and view their life. We then begin to compare our life to theirs. We are the same age, should we be at the same place in our life, should I mimic someone else to create the person that I should be, should I identify similarities with these individuals to help answer the question of “Who am I and what I should be doing”? I see so many successful people in the world, should I be one of those people, should I adjust my life to live like others, and if I don’t, am I average? Does the average exist? And if I am average, is that a bad thing?

Some live by the status quo, or in other terms if it’s not broke then don’t fix it. Who am I, and what should I be doing? I get up every morning, and do the same routine, travel the same path to do the same job. But, since it is working right now, why change it. Or from the spiritual view, if God wanted me to do something else, he would place it on my heart to do so, and I would make those changes. Some people will only change when forced to do, and at that point, they may still do just enough to get by. You may never know who you are if the only thing you ever do is what others have advised you to do, you have never created your own identity. At the end of the day, you are the person that someone else told you that you are. 

So where does that leave you?  It leaves you limited; it leaves you average, it leaves you with still not having an idea of what you should be doing. So, the real question is “Do we want to know who we are, and what we should be doing”? To know the answers to these questions, we must think outside of the box and do things that may make us uncomfortable.  We will never reach higher limits by doing what makes us comfortable. We have to define who we are and not what others say we are, we have to create us, and not societies image, you have to do what makes you happy, and not because people tell you that it is not good enough, you have to look in that mirror and ask ‘Who am I and what should I be doing’? Whoever I want to be and doing whatever I please.

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